You were the fourth person I’ve had sex with, my third boyfriend, and the first to respect me when I said no. You didn’t know why I broke down into tears after I heard you say, “Ok, so do you want chocolate chips in your pancakes?” I promise, I wasn’t crying about the pancakes you were about to make for me.
Read MoreMy thoughts about consent have changed so much since I started college. I knew that it wasn't okay if a guy didn't take no as an answer when it came to sex. But, I always thought it was kind of endearing if a guy didn't take no as an answer when he tried to flirt with you or ask you out. It was what all the romantic comedies taught me. It's what Nicholas Sparks told me. The guys who really are good for you are the ones that are persistent. No one told me that this could turn into harassment and that it's not healthy.
Read MoreIn high school, I had a new boyfriend every few months and was rarely single. So, when I got to college, I figured it would be the same. But, no guy was interested in anything other than a casual hookup and hanging out in his dorm. I was honestly kind of scared to be alone with a guy in his room. This fear didn't come from being a virgin because I had already had sex before. I guess I was just nervous about going too far with someone I didn't know well. I decided not to sleep with any guys for the first few months because I figured that I'd eventually feel comfortable enough with the casual dating style of college.
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