What is Consent?
Many people are taught that solely saying "yes" is the only way to gain consent, however there is often times a lot of grey area. The only way to be sure is an excited "yes", without coercion and the influence of drugs/alcohol. Consent can be taken away at any time, and it's important to discuss what each person is consenting to. The stories here show the grey area of consent, and hopefully will shed some light on the importance of everyone's consent.
According to the CDC 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men reported experiencing rape at some point in their lives. 51% of females reported their perpetrators as an intimate partner, 41% an acquaintance, and 14% were strangers. Males reported 53% to be acquaintances, 15% were strangers, and 67% intimate partners. Because these numbers are so high, it's important to be able to teach people exactly what consent is. The "stranger hiding in the bushes" belief is not nearly as common as it is made out to be and it's important for people to treat their sexual partners with respect, and understanding to the other's feelings.
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Why is Consent Important?
Sharing stories anonymously creates a safer space for individuals to come forward with thoughts and experiences they wouldn't otherwise feel comfortable sharing. Anonymity reduces anxieties about being judged and can give participants the confidence to speak out about issues they are passionate about without fearing personal consequence. In her 2011 article, "Public Pedagogy via Postsecret: A Transitional Space Where Private and Public Coincide," Dr. Jennifer L. Motter argues spaces where anonymity is used to discuss complex issues allow for free expression of emotions and ideas. She further argues some concepts are easier to learn through the sharing of stories among peers. Sharing opinions and narratives among a community of people who want to engage in the conversation allows participants to explore other perspectives and challenge their own understanding of consent.
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Need Help Now?
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
(800) 273-TALK (8255)
National Domestic Violence Hotline
(800) 799-7233
Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN)
(800) 656-HOPE
Planned Parenthood Hotline
(800) 230-PLAN (230-7526)
Teen Help Adolescent Resources
(800) 840-5704
Child Help USA National Child Abuse Hotline
(800) 422-4453